Missconnection between friends

Has this ever happened to you? A friend you hadn’t spoken to in a while and you accidentally run into each other. You’ll look at each other for a moment, wondering whether you should talk or not, cast awkward glances and go about your business. It’s funny how two friends who were once inseparable can become complete strangers, isn’t it?

Friendship is perhaps one of the most beautiful relat­ionships that two people can share. Friendship is about sharing opinions, dreams, fears, aspirations and hopes. Friendship is about engaging conversations, which go on and on and make you lose track of time. Friendship is about cherishing old memories of togetherness and creating new ones everyday. When you watch friends hanging out and having a great time, it seems as if they just belong together. However, maintaining a friendship is not always rosy. It requires a sound mutual understanding with lots and lots of love and care for each other.

Often when you see people who were once very close and have later moved on to part ways, you think what could’ve gone so terribly wrong between them that they can’t even stand each other? Can a friendship that starts with a ‘no sorry, no thank you’ rule and reaches the ‘friends forever’ stage end on a bitter note? The reasons for a broken friendship might be many, but most often when people look back at their broken friendships, they regret them. If you have ever lost a friend due to a petty fight or any other differences, then just read through these quotes about broken friendship . You might want to give your friendship another shot.

What does the Bible say about Friendship?

“A man that hath friends must show himself friendly” (Prov. 18: 24). Some are too distant to form friendships. There is great value in friendship. “Two are better than one,” wrote the wise man (Eccl. 4: 9). A true friend will stand by, even in times of trouble. “A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity,” the Bible says (Prov. 17: 17). To the converse, the Bible speaks of false friends when it warns, “Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble is like a broken tooth, and a foot out of joint” (Prov. 25: 19). There are some people that are not desired to be friends. For instance, “Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go” (Prov. 22: 24). A true friend will tell us when we are wrong. Hear the Bible, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful” (Prov. 27: 6). Genuine friends must be cherished and not forsaken (Prov. 27: 10).

Personally, I would never have guessed that two of my best friends and I would come to so much of a disagreement that we no longer be friends. At the time that this is being written, that friendship hangs in the balance. Majority of the world does not know who I am or my principles that I abide by. One principle I abide by is friendship and the reason why is explained in the previous 3 paragraphs.

So why are we at odds with one another now? Well one reason is because I personally enjoy having drinks among them in a social setting. I think that is the best thing in the world to enjoy between friends and it happens each weekend.  It just so happens that from their perspective, I have more than what my limit can handle.  And that is okay with me because they are entitled to their opinion. In the midst of that, I also talk to plenty of people and majority of these people are strangers. Unfortunately I talk to people that they are uncomfortable with me talking to which again, personally I am okay with that. In their eyes, I am wrong but in mine, I am being social.  Where do they find wrongdoing, that I am  unable to tell you.  In my perspective, I know my limit and I am well aware of what I am doing and who I am talking to because I am comfortable with me. I know me, how my mind operates, my intentions, and nobody should have to explain that to another person especially friends. Friends should know one another to a point where they should never have to question the other. They could ask out of concern which is care and that is very much highlighted in my opinion. But after that question has been answered, it should no longer become a concern. Again that’s just my opinion. Now I could explain their actions, habits, and probably others but its not my place to put that information out there nor pass judgement on them.

How things may fair out in the end, that is left to be unanswered at this time but I do want to leave you all with some sayings or tips that you can take with you:

Recognize what is petty and what is not petty as to avoid conflict.
Moving on is simple; what you leave behind, that makes it difficult.
A simple friend thinks the friendship over when you have an argument.  A real friend knows that it’s not a friendship until after you’ve had a fight.
A true friend is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else believes the smile on your face.
You meet people who forget you.  You forget people you meet.  But sometimes you meet those people you can’t forget. Those are your friends.
If you’re alone, I’ll be your shadow.  If you want to cry, I’ll be your shoulder.  If you want a hug, I’ll be your pillow.  If you need to be happy, I’ll be your smile… But anytime you need a friend, I’ll just be me.
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can rap/sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.
Never explain yourself.  Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it. ~ Belgicia Howell
Friendship must never be buried under the weight of misunderstanding. ~ Sri Chinmoy
Since there is nothing so well worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make them.
Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget. ~ G. Randolf
My father always used to say that when you die, if you’ve got five real friends, then you’ve had a great life. ~ Lee Iacocca
Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest.  It’s about who came, and never left your side.
There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt.  Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills. ~ Lord Buddha
It is strange how often a heart must be broken before the years can make it wise.
The worst solitude is to be destitute of sincere friendship. ~ Sir Francis Bacon
We all lose friends.. we lose them in death, to distance and over time.  But even though they may be lost, hope is not.  The key is to keep them in your heart, and when the time is right, you can pick up the friendship right where you left off.  Even the lost find their way home when you leave the light on. ~ Amy Marie Walz
Cherish your friends for you never know when they will be gone.  Accept your friends for they are your friends for a reason.  Never neglect them, their thoughts, nor feelings for they will know you are not the one to come to.  Above all always know that if you have no physical friends in this lifetime, you ALWAYS have a friend in Jesus.

In closing, true friendship is one of the great gifts of life. As we saw, man in his friendship with Jesus, must obey Jesus (John 15: 14).

I am Jeremy and I am a friend and there is no love lost on my end.